I found a great quote from the book, The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel:
“Yes, but I have something that you’ll never have; enough. The idea of having enough might look like conservatism, leaving opportunity and potential on the table. I don’t think that’s right. Enough is realizing the opposite, an insatiable appetite for more will push you to the point of regret. The only way to know how much food you can eat is to eat until you’re sick. Few try this because vomiting hurts more than any meal is good.”
I am writing this as we approach the end of March. That marks a quarter of 2023. Looking back at my resolutions from the New Year, I see many improvements and some things I still need to improve. Surprisingly, I am giving myself grace despite my imperfections.
While reflecting, I asked myself some difficult questions.
How can I understand the beauty of stillness with others and myself when I always want to keep moving? Who am I when I stop running?
I made a few observations:
1. More isn’t always more.
Whether through social media, advertising, or our social circles, we’re constantly bombarded with messages that tell us we’re not good enough. This can be especially damaging regarding our values and what we hold most dear. Sometimes it’s beneficial for me to evaluate not what I need but what I have.
2. The next best thing isn’t always better.
We all know comparison is the thief of joy. I try to limit my exposure to social media and other sources of comparison and remind myself that my worth isn’t tied to external achievements or material possessions.
3. I am not a self-improvement project.
Societal messages that value productivity and success frequently conflict with creative outlets and the need for downtime. I constantly remind myself that I am a person, not a machine.
Looking at my 2023 New Year’s resolutions, I see great things. Looking in the mirror, I am proud of where I am today. If you needed the reminder as I did, you aren’t a self-improvement project. You are valuable and worthy where you are now.